Have you ever wondered why your partner can trigger such strong emotions in you? Or why the same arguments seem to keep repeating? In Imago Relationship Therapy, we believe there’s a deeper meaning behind these patterns—and that understanding them can transform your relationship.
What Is Imago Relationship Therapy?
Imago Therapy, developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, emphasizes that we are very likely to choose partners who reflect both the best and most challenging aspects of our early experiences. While past wounds may resurface in our relationships, the key to healing lies in how we navigate conflicts in the present. Rather than dwelling on unresolved issues from the past, Imago Therapy encourages couples to focus on responding to repeated patterns of conflict with awareness and intentional action, creating opportunities for growth and deeper connection right now.
Key Insight: “We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” – Harville Hendrix
This core principle of Imago Therapy reminds us that the connection with our partner can be a path to healing and growth, as individuals and as a couple. When we approach our conflicts with curiosity and compassion, we open the door to growth.
Practical Exercise: The 3-Minute Appreciation Ritual
Take three minutes this week to express genuine appreciation to your partner. Here’s how:
Set a timer for three minutes.
Take turns sharing what you love and value about each other. Be specific (e.g., “I appreciate how you always make me laugh”).
For an added bones add in why this is meaningful. (e.g., I appreciate how you always make me laugh, and that's meaningful to me because it's nice to feel the lightheartedness that comes with laughing.")
Listen without interrupting or adding commentary—just receive the appreciation.
This simple practice, especially when established as a habit, can help shift the energy in your relationship from conflict to connection.
Workshop Teaser:
Exciting News for 2025! I’m thrilled to share that I’ll be hosting Imago Couples Workshops starting next year. These immersive sessions will guide you and your partner through transformative exercises to deepen your connection and communication. Stay tuned for more details in the coming months!
Join Us on the Journey
Transforming your relationship starts with small, intentional steps. This month, practice appreciating your partner, and notice how it brings you closer together. Remember, every moment of connection counts.
If you’re eager to learn more, keep an eye out for our upcoming Imago Couples Workshops in 2025. These workshops will guide you and your partner through practical, life-changing exercises to build a stronger, more connected relationship.
Stay tuned for more tips, stories, and updates—and until then, make time for the moments that matter. We’re excited to build this community with you!
Comments