Couples Therapy
Maybe you've tried couples therapy before and it didn't work. Maybe one of you is eager to start and the other is... cautiously skeptical (this is very normal!). Maybe you're worried this will turn into a session about who's to blame.
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I get it. Those are all normal concerns.
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Here's what I want you to know: this will be different. Not because I have some magic formula, but because we're going to work together in a structured, intentional way. You won't just show up and rehash the same arguments. We're going to learn something new - about yourselves, each other, and how to move through conflict differently.
Investment: 90-Minute Sessions | $300
Who this work is for (and who it's not for)
I work best with couples who have the bandwidth and interest to slow down, get curious, and try something new. Couples who genuinely want to understand why they keep ending up in the same patterns, and who are willing to look at their own part in the dynamic.
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This approach works well if:
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You're both willing to bring some curiosity to the process (skepticism is quite normal—are you open to learning something new?)
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You want to learn tools, not just vent about problems
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You're open to doing things differently (it will likely feel awkward)
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You see therapy as a tool for growth, not just crisis management
This might not be the best fit if:
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You're in acute crisis and need immediate intervention
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One or both of you are feeling that you likely don't want the relationship to continue
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There's unrestrained reactivity without willingness to pause and reflect
Here's something important: couples therapy isn't just for couples in trouble. Some of the couples I work with are doing pretty well - they just want to deepen their connection, prevent future problems, or have a place to work through the little things that come up. That's not only okay, it's smart.
How I work (and what makes this different)
From the very beginning, our work together will be structured and active. We’re not just talking about change — we’re practicing it.
Here's what that looks like:
We start with learning, not just processing.
In our first sessions, I’ll guide you through exercises and teach you the Imago Dialogue — a way of communicating that helps both of you feel genuinely heard. We’ll repeat it often, but with flexibility and humor. This isn’t about getting it “right.” It’s about building a new muscle for connection.
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We focus on the pattern, not the content.
We'll use your conflicts — whether day-to-day friction or the main issue that brought you in — as doorways into the deeper dynamics underneath. We will learn how your nervous systems respond, what protective strategies kick in, and how those make perfect sense given your histories. When we can see those patterns clearly, the content (the dishes, the tone, the timing) starts to shift more naturally.
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Both of you will be challenged - and supported.
This isn’t about blame or keeping score. Both of you shape the dynamic, and both of you have the power to change it. I’ll point out what’s happening in real time, with compassion and honesty, so you can each see how your part makes sense and how to do something new.
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I bring in what fits for you.
While my foundation is Imago Relationship Therapy, I integrate insights from neuroscience, attachment theory, mindfulness, and polyvagal understanding. The goal isn’t to fit you into a model — it’s to help your relationship thrive in real life.
Finding the right fit
There are several really good couples therapy approaches out there. Imago is one of them, but it's not the only one. My best advice? Explore what resonates with you. Read about different approaches. Have consultations with therapists.
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The fit you feel between yourselves, the therapist, and the approach is incredibly important in this work. You need to feel like you can trust the process and the person guiding it.
